Why does this pattern repeat, repeat, and repeat itself over and over again? I convinced them after much conversation, to talk with the parent to find out why were they blamed for everything going wrong in their life.
The parent refused to acknowledge what they did was wrong, all they said to them was 'I don't know who that person was back then', or 'I don't remember saying that'. In other words, they get told to let it go, move on because I have and so can you.
When does it stop, and when does it end? I decided that I am not going to put what was done to me, that was wrong, in my children. I am still fighting the negative thoughts daily, those thoughts that tell me that I am no good. No more ruining innocent lives because it was done to me.
The repeated pattern stops now.