The Pattern continues

There is another individual whose father always blames them for the mistakes that happen in his life, instead of understanding things happened to them because of the choices they made, not the choices the child made. They blamed the child at a young age and now that the child is older, when they make a mistake or get corrected, their mind goes back to what was said to them when they were younger. They go into a deep depression thinking that no one likes them, that everyone is against them.

Why does this pattern repeat, repeat, and repeat itself over and over again? I convinced them after much conversation, to talk with the parent to find out why were they blamed for everything going wrong in their life.

The parent refused to acknowledge what they did was wrong, all they said to them was 'I don't know who that person was back then', or 'I don't remember saying that'. In other words, they get told to let it go, move on because I have and so can you.

When does it stop, and when does it end? I decided that I am not going to put what was done to me, that was wrong, in my children. I am still fighting the negative thoughts daily, those thoughts that tell me that I am no good.  No more ruining innocent lives because it was done to me.

The repeated pattern stops now.


Stand Strong

~Miss J
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