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The Pattern... ? Private or Paranoia? You don't have to be rude.

4/22/2017

The Pattern...

Can make you think that someone is always wanting to know what you are doing.

If they ask 'how are you this morning?', you think they are trying to get into your personal business.

Instead of acknowledging them in a friendly and polite manner, you give them a look like, 'how dare you acknowledge me'.

The pattern teaches the young to grow up thinking it is ok to 'not' acknowledge someone. When they ask 'how are you?' just stare at them. They don't mean no harm, they are just repeating the pattern.

This is what was put out in their household, no one ever said it was wrong. So in their mind it is ok to do this.

Until, one day, another generation comes up with a different pattern, and starts acknowledging others, the old pattern looks at him/her like they are odd.

Because it is not normal for them to be friendly.

It is never too late to change, or create / get on board with a new pattern!

~ Miss J
http://ThingsYouWantedToSay.com
http://SpeakToMissJ.com

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The Pattern... is it ok to Lie?

4/21/2017

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The pattern...

Teaches that it is ok to lie.

You don't have to tell the truth. This is what they have seen in someone they love and trust, something that person has done all of their life.

It was ok for them to do it, so they followed that pattern from a child.

Not thinking or asking themselves, "Have I had enough?"

"Why is it so hard for me to tell the truth? Why, why, why do I always have to lie?"

"Were did I see this behavior and accepted it as being ok? And when am I going to make the decision to change this pattern?"

It is no more about them, it is about me keeping it real.

Only the Truth will make you Free, and...

I need to be Free.

~ Miss J
http://ThingsYouWantedToSay.com
http://SpeakToMissJ.com

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The Pattern... Serving others or Being Used by them?

4/20/2017

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There is some patterns that make someone feel like they have to serve others.

They make the children's bed, clean the house, do the chores, and no matter how hard they work, or how many job's they have, they still are a servant to others.

This is what they have seen the pattern do.

They work themselves to death. Never allowing someone to be responsible for their own mess, never accepting the assistance or help of another.

Their spouse can always depend on them, it does not matter if they are sick or well, they still are a servant to others.

Now that they are older and can use a little help, they find it difficult to get. A lifetime of training those around them to depend on them, to take from them that no body knows how to give. And if they did give, this person doesn't know how to receive.

It does not matter how many time they babysitted or changed their plans so you can keep yours. No one wants to help out.

Other people can never see your good, or the sacrifices you made, because they were focused on what you can do for them.

Isn't it about time to break the pattern of being used?

~ Miss J
http://ThingsYouWantedToSay.com
http://SpeakToMissJ.com

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Mis-Informed... The Pattern strikes again

4/19/2017

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The Pattern....

Can cause you to be misinformed.

Growing up disliking a family member, or a certain person, because of what you been told by the pattern.

This pattern may not have gotten all the facts, or could have misread something, yet they made sure that their family would have no association with that person or family member.

This pattern blows thing out of proportion, they have put down so much concrete on top of this individual that it is going to be so, so hard to accept anything good that this person has done.

No matter how many times they get up out of the concrete, you still won't see their good.

You still will die with hate in your heart for someone who has never done wrong, to you or anyone else.

Never getting the correct facts, you only accepted the pattern.

~ Miss J
http://ThingsYouWantedToSay.com
http://SpeakToMissJ.com

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The Pattern... insecurity

4/18/2017

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The pattern.

This pattern can cause you to lie about someone because you feel intimidated by them.

I remember working with a gentleman who had low self esteem.

When someone would come to the area where we work, especially another male, he would always start to embarrass me by joking about women. 'How women are this... how they love to do that...' and when the people left, I just looked at him and said 'Ha Ha, Mr.'

Then there was a day I was not up for the jokes on women, so this time people left laughing at him.

Tables turned.

He started to cry.

I just looked at him. Thinking to myself "Are you serious?! You do this to me all the time for no reason at all". He said that he knows he is ugly and knows that no one likes him. So he found that when he tells jokes on women that this takes the attention off of him and put it on someone else.

Still looking at him thinking, 'What?! Let me get this right, you would rather hurt someone else's feeling, because you decided to not like yourself?

When you decide to start liking yourself, people will and can like you for you, not for what you are being now as a jerk, a very disrespectful person.'

~ Miss J

http://ThingsYouWantedToSay.com
http://SpeakToMissJ.com

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