This pattern can cause you to lie about someone because you feel intimidated by them.
I remember working with a gentleman who had low self esteem.
When someone would come to the area where we work, especially another male, he would always start to embarrass me by joking about women. 'How women are this... how they love to do that...' and when the people left, I just looked at him and said 'Ha Ha, Mr.'
Then there was a day I was not up for the jokes on women, so this time people left laughing at him.
He started to cry.
I just looked at him. Thinking to myself "Are you serious?! You do this to me all the time for no reason at all". He said that he knows he is ugly and knows that no one likes him. So he found that when he tells jokes on women that this takes the attention off of him and put it on someone else.
Still looking at him thinking, 'What?! Let me get this right, you would rather hurt someone else's feeling, because you decided to not like yourself?
When you decide to start liking yourself, people will and can like you for you, not for what you are being now as a jerk, a very disrespectful person.'
~ Miss J