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The Pattern... Sex or Love?

4/17/2017

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The Pattern.

There is a pattern where a girl or boy feel they need attention, feel like they are lacking someone to care for them or love them, so they use their body as an object to get what they want.

If you wanted sex, they have no problem supplying your desire, as long as they thought you liked them or made them feel good about themselves for a few moments.

Knowing that thrill, not of sex, but of having someone like them even if it is only for a short time, they settle for it.  Making the mistake of thinking that sex is the same thing as love or friendship.  Thinking that people liked them, or loved them, when in reality the other person was only using them because they were 'easy'.

The pattern they have learned says "is there anyone out there that will love or like me for me?"  The pattern keeps them living a lie, suffering in loneliness.

If you do care for someone like this, tell them 'you start believing in yourself, start by liking you first'.  Or give them a hug and even saying I Love you.

~ Miss J
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The Pattern ... sad stories

4/15/2017

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There is a pattern...
where some people feel that, if they tell you a sad story, you will feel sorry for them and then bless them.

This sad story is designed to tug on your heart, to cause you to not be able to sleep at night, because you are thinking of the ways you can Bless this individual.

This individual gets their thrills from the attention that comes with the problems.  Don't you dare solve the problem without donating something.

You now have become their enemy.  They don't want their problems solved, they want the attention, free lunch, gift card, cash, etc...  How many stories have you heard someone tell, because they love the attention?

Instead of being so quick to help, start praying about the problem.  If they tell you a sad story, say "I will pray about it".  If they choose to distance themselves, and turn to someone else who is quick to help them, then you know what's up.

They don't want your prayer, they want the attention and the gifts.

You are not suppose to break their pattern.

~ Miss J
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Sleeping around to get things... The Pattern

4/14/2017

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The Pattern...
A pattern exists where some people have seen their parents get money and material things, by sleeping with others.

It never was about love.

It was always about getting what they wanted, or what they need.

As the child got older, they repeated the pattern.

No matter how someone cared for them, and wanted them to settle down and stop the wrong behavior, they can only see a life that the was passed down to them from the Pattern.

The money.  The material things.

Material things that only give them a temporary high.  Things that cause them to want more and more, and never be satisfied.

Everything becomes cheap and expendable.

Is there anything of value anymore?

~ Miss J
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The Pattern... I know you, and you, but do I know you?

4/13/2017

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​The Pattern...
has caused me to be friends with some family members but other members of the family act like they are not family members, so I treat them as such.

I have witnessed my parents do this.

If it was good enough for them to do this, it has to be good enough for me.

Right?

I don't want to break The Pattern and start talking to "everyone" in the family and make my parents mad at me!

What am I going to do?

The Pattern
sometimes causes me to 'not want to know my name'!

~ Miss J
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The Pattern I noticed

4/11/2017

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​The Pattern...

causes someone to go to a bar.

'this is what I have seen my parents do'.  They told me it relieved stress, that a couple of drinks helped them to get 'through the day'.

When I got older I followed in their footsteps.

I spend a lot of my check on alcohol.  I take very little home and I am always late on my bills.  I have had a vehicle repossessed.  The Pattern has caused me to stay broke, and listen to other people's problems, and even sometimes find myself caught up in a fight I did not start.

I did not have a good pattern to follow in my life.

My life is a mess.

~ Miss J
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